Using Loneliness in the Intro Psych Classroom–An Update
As you may have noticed, I am experimenting with the use of Loneliness with my introductory psychology students. We’re doing a lot of out of class projects, but I also wanted to incorporate some in-class activities. Yesterday, we tried to apply one of the principles of improving social connection suggested by John Cacioppo and Bill Patrick–”extend” yourself.
Our interviews resulted in many animated conversations.
I borrowed liberally from an exercise that Mr. F remembered from his MBA coursework at USC. USC is very hands-on, and they’re a great source of practical classroom activities. The MBA activity was geared towards formal job interviewing, so we needed to tweak it a bit, but it worked out really well.
We started out with a short discussion of what it meant to “extend” yourself to others–focusing on others instead of the self, initiating conversations rather than waiting for another person to start talking, and learning about the other people in the classroom. Then we divided the class in half–I just used odd and even birthdays–and one group had the assignment to interview someone from the other half for 5 minutes (I brought a noisy timer) and learn something “positive” about the person that others might not know. We had the potential “interviewees” stay seated and raise their hands, and the “interviewers” rushed around to find an interviewee. After 5 minutes, they found a second person to interview, then we switched roles for the next two rounds. So everybody was an interviewer twice and an interviewee twice.
When all the interviews were done, I asked for a volunteer to come up to the front, and then his/her interviewers were asked to come up and share what they had learned. Then the interviewee could comment on how accurate they had been. We shared the results of three interviews. We have some amazing students!
I was very pleased with how the activity went. The decibel level in the classroom was shocking–I fully expected professors from neighboring classrooms to come in to complain. You can’t have 30+ animated conversations going without making some noise. At first, I noticed that some of the students seemed quite reserved, but over the course of 4 interviews, everybody seemed to lighten up. One correction I would make, and Mr. F chided me a bit for not noticing this in his directions, would be to specify that you needed to interact with four different people. Some dyads just switched roles at the halfway mark. This wasn’t a big problem, but I think it’s better to have four other people to talk to.
We ended the class considering another “extend” activity suggested in Loneliness. This was for out-of-class time, because the idea is to greet people like supermarket clerks. This produced quite a bit of discussion, as many students had worked as clerks. One student remarked that clerks in his store are trained to greet customers, but it’s often disheartening to have little positive feedback. Another said that most customers in her experience were very friendly, leading to a discussion of big city versus small town (San Luis Obispo has about 45,000 residents, but many students are from LA or the Bay Area). Another student worked in a department store, and said that he had to be careful about asking elderly customers “how are you,” because they would stay and talk for half an hour. Needless to say, this provoked additional discussion about how seniors might not have anyone to talk to and the level of loneliness many experience.
All in all, it was a fun class section. Much better than listening to me go through PowerPoints. I’m really excited about how Loneliness is providing a theme for our quarter.











